On Saturday, March 22, Adam and I finally got hitched, and it was nonstop wedding planning after work and on the weekends.
I was the type of bride who watched every episode of Say Yes to the Dress, Four Weddings, and those other wedding movies like I Love You, Man and Wedding Singer while doing the little things like guest cards, table numbers, designing the programs and childhood video. Dear Allah, those shows helped my bridal brain.
Adam and I ended up falling in love with the show Bridezillas about three weeks from the wedding... not for its pure trashy entertainement, but the fact that we could empathize with all of the last-minute planning of these brides and how they were handling it.
Personally, there was a lot to do.
Leading up to the wedding, Adam's family came in from London and we had the rehearsal dinner at Armitage Bistro where both of our families from all over the two countries meshed... and it was sincerely so lovely. I adore seeing my cousins; even though I visit with them about once every three or two years, it feels like time hasn't passed and we can be our silly selves together whenever we reunite.
The next day--my wedding day--my good bud and talented photographer friend, Tiffany Egbert, took my wedding photos throughout the days: the boys getting ready while watching ESPN, the ladies gettin' their hairs did with the awesome Ms. Voelz and her friend, the limo ride while drinking champagne and listening to really bad (yet oh-so good) rap music while taking pictures at Pinnacle Peak, and then the ceremony, cocktail hour, and reception at Desert Camp Community Center--with thoughtful toasts, awesome dancing, and photo booth goodness.
Anyway, although Adam and I have only been married 15 days, here's a list of 15 reasons why I love being married, specifically to this wonderful man, especially since we've already reached our first marriage trial not hours after we were married.
1. We had a steady diet of leftover wedding cake until 3 days ago. And it was pure delicious glory--no judgement by either of us. Piece of Cake is seriously the best cake (didn't even really knew I liked cake) that I've ever had.
2. He's really fun to decorate the apartment with. I had a co-worker and friend say how she and her husband went "Indecent Proposal" with all of the money and gifts from others. Most of the wedding gifts were from Target and Pottery Barn, so Adam and I now feel like we live in a totally different place--which is perfectly wonderful. It's like... we're adults getting over IKEA. Laaaaa!
3. Being logical trumps financial wants. With this, we have about $200 to spend at Pottery Barn. Not sure weather to spend it on fantastic vintage-looking Aiden wine rack or the Chloe floor lamp for our living room. Obviously, the Chloe floor lamp, right? RIGHT? The sale ends on Wednesday--help!
4. He talked me out of getting a Pottery Barn credit card account. Good husband.
5. He's really good at nodding his head to music while cooking. Okay, so since running out of wedding cake, I'll be listening to music and writing while he cooks, and well, he does this damn good head nod when pasta-ing it up.
6. I keep his wedding vows in my Mazda's glove compartment. And they've been really getting me through some not-so-perfect times.
7. There's this idea--at least that I had--that once you're married it's going to feel differently. It doesn't. And I love that. I think it means you're married to your best friend.
8. This year was going to be about letting go for me. Lately, I've been obsessing about unfair matters; and though Adam feels the same, he's very good about making me understand how moral matters return to others and how integrity and intention affect others long-term in life. Which means, he makes me a better person by putting things into perspective.
9. He passively tells me what to do--which I love, but is totally annoying. For example, "Hey, I'm going to clean out Zooey's cat box." Translation: It's your turn to clean out her litter box. Another example, "Hey, I'm going to move your car closer to the apartment door." Translation: I saw that you did a really bad parking job where you were basically in two spots, so I want you to take care of that."
10. Life is so much cheaper married, and that's sexy. Yeah, we lived together for about 18 months before getting married, but joining plans like AT&T and Progressive has saved us *so* much money with each monthly bill. Which equals joy. Cheap, cheap bliss.
11. He has random OCD tendencies and I'm learning to keep up. He will berate me for squeezing my toothpaste in weird, random directions. His toothpaste is so nice and perfectly squeezed upwards. Obviously, we have to hide our toothpaste in our drawers. YET: He will mess up his towel on the rack in the guest bathroom--where everyone sees how beautiful the towel can be. This confuses me, yet makes me love him more, to no end.
12. He forces snuggles in the morning, even though we have to get up and going by 6 a.m.
13. The only thing he asked for with the Target gift registry was season 3 of Game of Thrones on Blu-Ray. And now we have HBO for the next six months because today is the magnificent season premiere of my favorite show.
14. We had a date to see the new Wes Anderson movie flick at 1:30 p.m. today, and then when we were ready to go, I told him: Hey, I'm not in the mood to see it. And he returned: Yeah, I wasn't really into it either. Love.
15. We get each others dry, weird, morbid, fun, whatever sense of humor. And then we laugh. He's my favorite person to laugh with, and I love hearing his voice giggling at smart (or stupid) things.
Real fast: Below was one of the readings from our wedding ceremony written by Tom Robbins from his novel "Still Life with Woodpecker." It is a thought on love and how to maintain healthy relationships. I believe it to the T.
"Love is the ultimate outlaw. It just won't adhere to any rules. The most any of us can do is to sign on as its accomplice. Instead of vowing to honor and obey, maybe we should swear to aid and abet. That would mean that security is out of the question. The words 'make' and 'stay' become inappropriate. My love for you has no strings attached. I love you for free."
Clearly, from the picture below, hats off to that.
At any rate, how has everyone else been doing? I've missed writing in here!